By Dr. Flex
(Certified Doctor of Vibes, Attitude, and Public Nonsense)
Welcome to the Clinic
Allow me to introduce myself properly.
My name is Dr. Flex.
No, I will not be showing you my license.
No, I will not be explaining where I studied.
Yes, I am still a doctor.
Some heal bodies. Some heal minds.
I heal mistakes, by telling you to avoid the people who cause them.
Welcome, reader. Sit down. Relax. Take a deep breath. And if at any point during this chapter you feel personally attacked, dizzy, or tempted to text someone you shouldn't?
That means the diagnosis is working.
Today's topic is not complicated.
It is essential.
People you should avoid.
Not because they are evil.
Not because they are weird (vampires).
But because they will ruin your peace, your time, your wallet, and possibly your character development arc.
Let us begin the examination.
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1. The "I'm Just Being Honest" Patient
This one is common. Very common. Highly contagious.
They say things like:
"I'm just being honest."
"I don't sugarcoat."
"I tell it how it is."
No.
You tell it how you feel—without empathy, timing, or responsibility.
Honesty without kindness is not a virtue. It is a weapon.
And these people love swinging it in public spaces like they're paid per emotional injury.
They will insult you, then look confused when you're upset.
They will criticize your choices, then act shocked when you stop sharing things with them.
Avoid them.
Not because honesty is bad but because self-awareness is missing, and there is no cure for that yet.
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2. The Chronic Victim (Advanced Stage)
Everything happens to them.
Nothing ever happens because of them.
They are always unlucky. Always misunderstood. Always surrounded by "toxic people."
If everyone you meet in your life is toxic, my clinic would like to examine you.
They never apologize. They never reflect.
They only narrate their suffering like a dramatic audiobook.
You cannot help them.
You cannot save them.
You will only become a supporting character in their tragedy.
Avoid them.
Your empathy is medicine and they abuse the dosage.
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3. The Energy Vampire
These people do not enter rooms.
They drain them.
You start the day motivated and you meet them? Suddenly your life feels heavy, your plans feel pointless, and your phone battery drops for no reason.
They complain professionally.
They sigh artistically.
They turn every conversation into a TED Talk titled "Why Everything Is Terrible."
You are not their therapist.
You are not their charger.
You are not their emotional landfill.
Avoid before symptoms worsen.
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4. The Fake Motivational Speaker
This one will tell you:
"Sleep is for the weak."
"Grind every second."
"If you're tired, you're not hungry enough."
They have quotes.
They have podcasts.
They have no peace.
They make exhaustion look holy and burnout look like success. They confuse productivity with worth and think rest is a personality flaw.
Avoid them.
Your nervous system deserves better marketing.
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5. The One Who Hates Everyone's Success
When you win, they frown.
When you fail, they suddenly have time.
They clap softly.
They smile briefly.
They ask questions that sound supportive but feel investigative.
They don't want what you have—they just don't want you to have it.
Avoid them.
Celebration should feel warm, not suspicious.
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6. The "I Know a Better Way" Consultant
You didn't ask.
They answered anyway.
You say you like something.
They explain why you're wrong.
You make a decision.
They immediately propose an alternative.
They are allergic to letting people live.
Avoid them.
Advice without consent is control in a lab coat.
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7. The Boundary Allergic Individual
They don't respect time.
They don't respect space.
They don't respect "no."
They show up unannounced.
They overshare aggressively.
They guilt you for having limits.
They think boundaries are personal attacks.
Avoid them.
Peace requires fences.
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8. The Professional Gossip
They always know something.
They always shouldn't.
They whisper loudly.
They smile mysteriously.
They promise secrecy they never intend to keep.
If they gossip with you, they gossip about you. This is not a theory. This is a diagnosis.
Avoid.
Silence is a safer company.
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9. The Time Thief
They are never on time.
They never finish stories.
They never get to the point.
You give them minutes. They steal hours.
They don't value time because they don't value energy—their own or yours.
Avoid.
Life is short. Conversations shouldn't feel longer.
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10. The Commitment Phobic Friend
They say "maybe." They mean "no."
They disappear like Wi-Fi in an elevator.
They cancel last minute.
They promise vaguely and leave you emotionally buffering.
Avoid them.
Reliability is attractive. Confusion is exhausting.
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11. The One Who Makes Everything a Competition
You're not racing.
But they brought a stopwatch.
Your pain becomes a contest.
Your joy becomes a comparison.
Your life becomes a leaderboard.
Avoid them.
Not everything needs a winner. Some things need understanding.
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12. The "That's Just How I Am" Person
This sentence is usually spoken right after poor behavior.
They don't want to change.
They don't want to grow.
They want acceptance without effort.
Avoid them.
Identity is not an excuse and growth is not optional.
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13. The Emotional Accountant
They keep score.
They remember favors.
They track sacrifices.
They collect receipts emotionally.
Relationships are not spreadsheets.
Avoid.
Love should not come with interest rates.
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14. The Drama Magnet
If there is peace, they are bored.
If there is chaos, they are energized.
They attract problems like it's a talent. And somehow, you're always nearby when it explodes.
Avoid.
Your life is not a reality show.
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15. The "Everyone Else Is Stupid" Thinker
They are always right.
Everyone else is wrong.
Discussion is pointless.
They don't listen. They lecture.
Avoid.
Wisdom listens. Ego interrupts.
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16. The Conditional Supporter
They support you, until it inconveniences them.
They care, until it requires effort.
Their kindness has terms and conditions.
Avoid.
Support should not expire.
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17. The Identity Thief
They copy your interests.
They adopt your opinions.
They wear your personality like a jacket.
Flattery becomes eerie when it erases you.
Avoid.
You deserve originality nearby.
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18. The Permanent Critic
Nothing is ever good enough.
They nitpick joy.
They downgrade achievements.
They find flaws like it's a hobby.
Avoid.
Life is already hard enough.
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19. The Guilt Engineer
They make you feel bad for resting.
For saying no.
For choosing yourself.
Avoid.
Self-care is not selfishness.
(Damn, this list is longer this i thought)
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20. Final Diagnosis
Not everyone who smiles at you is meant to stay.
Not everyone who talks to you deserves access.
Avoiding people is not cruelty.
It is hygiene.
You lock doors at night.
You filter water.
You avoid expired food.
So why wouldn't you avoid expired energy?
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Discharge Notes from Dr. Flex
If this chapter offended you—good.
Reflection hurts before it heals.
If this chapter helped you—excellent.
Prescribe distance.
And remember:
You are not obligated to entertain, heal, fix, or endure everyone.
Some people are lessons.
Some people are warnings.
And some people are to be avoided entirely.
This has been your Dr. Flex.
Now go. And protect your peace.